A friend, many years ago, told me that her parents never tried to make her happy. It is a moment I will never forget. What!?! They taught her that happiness was her own gig. Excuse me!?! The thought turned my brain upside at the time. When you care about someone, when you love them, you try to make them happy right? That's the job. Right?!? I thought my head would pop off!
Then she shared something else that they had taught her and that's when I went from being stunned to being scared to death. They taught her that she would determine her own happiness based on the choices she made.
In a heart beat I knew it was true that day I realized two very sacry things. 1) that i could trace every ounce of stress in my life back to decisons I had made or had failed to make and 2) I didn't have the skills to do my life any differently than I was doing it now. So what was I gonna do? I needed a way off the island.
On that day something just clicked and I became startlingly aware that the choices I was making in my life, was not leading me in the direction I wanted to go. Can anyone else relate? I believe at that moment was the moment I became willing. Willing to change my approach to how I was doing my life. That willingness, I learned was all I needed to move my life in a new direction. to begin to see and to realize the potential for my own life. This is true for me an I know it to be true for everyone because there is nothing extraordinary about me.
Today I am a happy person because of the choices I've made since that day and I created Crossing Bridges Coaching as a safe place to support people who are willing in gain the skills that enable them to make the choices that will bring them most happiness. Stop by: www.crossingbridgescoaching.com
